Help Others When You Can

 

Something that baffles me a lot is why people who are in a position to help other people don’t render the help especially when they don’t really have anything to lose. 

I say this because there could be some reasons that could tie the hands of the supposed helper. Like maybe they could be in danger if the do or they might just run into trouble that will be difficult for them to get out of, amongst other serious consequences. However when there is no consequence whatsoever, why do people just feel it’s okay not to help your fellow human? 

Okay let’s take for instance a lady sitting in a park scrolling through Instagram, a few ladies approach this lady who is on her phone to please help them like a picture on Instagram and maybe drop an emoji comment if she can  only to get ignored by this person that is already scrolling through Instagram before the ladies got there. Isn’t that not plain wickedness? Yes I know the popular defense that will be applied in this scenario is that “it is their phone and they can do whatever they want to do with it” but should that be a justification for unkindness to humanity?

 I am one person that believes that it is a privilege for someone to come to you and ask you to help them, to be honest it gives me that feeling of accomplishment, that feeling that I’m able to positively impact a life. So why should anyone not want this? Sure we are different and we crave different things but come on life isn’t that hard for you to feel like life revolves round you alone. I feel like this is the major reason why people come for (bash) celebrities who splurge on expensive things but don’t help people. 

 No wonder a musician said that life itself is not hard but rather the people living in it are the ones that make things complicated for each other. 

One thing I find disgusting and painful to an extent is when someone ignores you at the time of need. Even though the goal should be to assist people as long as it’s safe and it is within you capacity, we can’t still force anyone to do this but that attitude of ignoring people when they look up to you for help should be stopped. 

Imagine someone going into another person’s DM to ask for help with something urgent only to realize that the person saw the message but refused to reply, then they further burst your brain when you see them posting around social media confirming your suspicion that they saw your message. Personally I see people that do this as people with self esteem and determination issues. People who can’t boldly say YES when they want to and NO when they want to. People who are not confident to state boldly what they like or don’t like. Please if you are one of those that does this STOP, It doesn’t portray you in good light. 

In as much as we should strife to be independent, nobody is an island. You can’t have everything at your disposal there are somethings beyond your capacity that you need another hand with yours in order to complete it. Even at the international level states depend on each other for one help or the other. 

You shouldn’t be angry that people are coming to you for help instead you should be grateful for having the ability to impact someone else life. You should be able to boldly say No if you can’t help the person and yes if it will be possible instead of leaving the person on “read” and looking at them as useless for needing your assistance. 

One thing I always remind myself is that nobody knows tomorrow. Just because someone is not there yet today doesn’t mean they can’t get there tomorrow. That person you snubbed today might be the one to award you your next contract or give you your dream job. Even if nothing will come out of that help you just rendered directly, you should know that you have done humanity proud.

Helping others doesn’t necessarily have to be monetary. Imagine that feeling that comes with you giving hungry people food to eat from your surplus or explaining that topic to your course mates because you are the only one that understands it well or you sharing that material that will be useful for an assignment, you helping a visually impaired person cross the road or recommending a person for a job or contract because you can and so many other beautiful things that can be done to make someone’s life better. That feeling is beautiful you guys.

In concluding this article I will like to state that this isn’t written to tell people not to spend their money or enjoy life. I’m an advocate of making yourself happy as this is very important in life because unhappiness can lead to depression and a depressed person can’t help others so take good care of yourself. All in all let’s try to offer an helping hand to others when we can because we might need it when we least expect.

Till next time…….bye bye